Male Female Friendship

The Indian culture is yet to come to terms when it comes to friendship between a Male and Female.The initial reaction is that of a wide eyed hawk looking for a scoop in it.Although, we have shown tremendous growth on social and economic front however our minds are yet to respond positively to this relationship.In the West, which is a yardstick for many of us,the friendship is just viewed as a greater and comfortable interaction between two persons.It does not matter much whether the concerned people are both males both females or male and female.I think we need to awaken up to this reality of life where this kind of friendship needs to be viewed with a positive frame of mind.





All our mythologicals have mostly mentioned about the friendship between males only.So, this mentality owes its inception to this period.The changing times could hardly reverse the trend.The male dominated society continued to guide the destiny of the people with this mentality.Its a fact that most of the kings had harem of women for their pleasure but we are yet to come across one queen who had this kind of facility for her.Anyway, we are not advocating the need of harems but highlighting the need for positive and healthy friendship between male and females.Following wrongs doesnt make us right so whatever wrongs we follow needs to be amended.Even the Indian constitution since its inception has recorded several amendments.So why cant the society change its line of thinking.It is need of the hour.Unlike the mythological age of kings, the men need to be more tolerant,understanding and have a broader perspective of life.If a female member of the family is friends with a male member there is no need to bring the house down.Just as men like to have friends similarly it is the requirement of females.If we don't accept this harsh reality of life, we shall be in trouble sooner or later.





Newton, the great scientist,needs to be complimented for realising this while jotting down his laws of motion.He says "To every action there is equal and opposite reaction"and we find this being followed in daily life today.A gal today wants to know that if her male member of the family can have a female friend why cant she have a male friend?Logically, she is correct.If you want her to follow you don't do any indecent thing so that one can hold his head high while preaching others.The root cause of this is our sick minded mentality which views the women as an object of sex only.We tend to forget the love, warmth, affection,care, glamour,decency ,patience,kindness,gerosity etc she brings with her.On the other hand, men are capable of contributing by way of adventurism,enthusiasm,calmness,ability to handle all odd situations, giving the feeling of protectiveness to women etc.Dont we feel if we sum up all these qualities we can have a complete human being who would be an assest to any society at any time.





Male female friendship goes beyond the physical attractions.I feel its an individuals perception of viewing a situation.An half glass of water is half empty for some and half full for others.In other words its the way of looking up to situations from different angles.I have known some people who during the course of their work struck decent, meaningful ,satisfying,mutually beneficial friendship with the members of opposite sex. They love it, adore and cherish it .How can such a friendship be put to acid test and tell me one person on earth who would not like to cultivate this kind of friendship?I think the evil minds need some repairs by jolting with heavy hammers in the head.I hope they don't die during this activity.





A male getting attracted to a female and vice versa is nothing new.Its a natural phenomenon.The laws of magnetism have clearly spelt them."Like poles repel each other and unlike poles attract each other".Moreover, look how anxious one is while waiting for a friend of opposite sex over a cup of coffee and some delicious meal.I don't think the coffee or the meal contribute much to their happiness than just the feeling of togetherness.They tend to put on the best of behaviours, the best of dresses to impress each other.The tensions of this modern world are released through this outlet and discussions are mostly constructive.All things are done decently because thats the basic requirement .If one wants to get into indecency,there is a decent way of doing indecent things.Get married.



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